My family of three, husband and a teen girl, really want the change of a move. My family has invited me to join their business, so job is good for me. Husband would have to find something new. My teen is so unhappy in her high school. It’s freshman year, but she wants a new start. As you mentioned in your post, my daughter wants to surf. She loves the ocean and wants to study it in college, so to the coast we plan to go. I have loved the city I live in, but it’s growing so fast, it’s not really the city I have enjoyed over the last 24 years. Everything is so crowded, 35 minutes to drive four miles home from work. I’m feeling like we are being squeezed out and the things that bind us as a community are complaining about how hard it’s getting to live here.
We are only talking about a move 3 1/2 hours away. What I didn’t really anticipate was how heartbroken my friends would be when I told them our plans. I’m sick. It makes me question all of our choices. Frankly, the only thing making me want to stay is the people in my life, but we hardly see each other anymore. I’m also afraid that I’m going to hurt my daughter by putting her into a new school mid freshman year. She wants to go. I’ve asked her if she’d prefers to wait for the new school year and she says she is ready. But she is 14. I have come to realize that she is very self-assured and knows her own mind, but I’m a worrier and think I can control everything happening. I can’t control her emotional life, which is hard.
So a man is bringing a contract for our house today. No realtor fees and we’ll have more than 1/3 equity to put in the bank. I’m scared. Everything has fallen into place to make this move easy. Job, money, place to live, family, and I then crumbled into heap when my friend texted me that she was heart broken and that we are loved. I’ve never been a person who likes big decisions. I research (found your blog), read, analyze, but with this, it has all slowly, and recently fallen into place. Then my heart gets split open with the thought that this is a mistake on an emotional level. I can’t research or find data on how our hearts will take this move. I think it will be amazing for us, but I’m a puddle of tears right now knowing there is no “right” decision. Just a decision that leads to the unknown.
Fear is a tough master.
